What’s your problem?
No one is going to tell you what your biggest problem is. If you stink, no one wants to be the one to tell you to take a shower. If your fly’s open, no one wants to be the one to tell you to zip up. And when you have some strongly held but deeply ignorant belief, no one wants to waste their time and breath convincing you that you’re an idiot.
If you’re going to figure out why things are going wrong, you’re going to have to develop some acute self-awareness.